Desires are gifts that arise from within giving direction. The motivation to create, expand, and evolve comes through desires. You might think of them as evolutionary pulls from the future. Unfortunately, the ego usually grabs hold before you become consciously aware of them and skews the message. It’s difficult to predict or control just which desires will arise, but it is possible to learn to interpret their true meaning and act on them in ways that bring about beneficial results. Overcoming the ego’s rapid and unconscious response to a desire is a powerful skill that brings greater harmony, peace, and flow into your life. When you are aligned with your desires as they originate, you are in tune with the Tao.
Beneath the ego’s spin, you can find the desire’s true meaning simply by asking yourself why you want it. As you peel down asking why, you’ll see that nearly everything you want is ultimately designed to make you feel better, more relaxed, more confident, etc. When you get this, you can let go of needing to get it the way the ego wants. Then you can truly relax and open to allowing events to unfold for the highest purpose.
The more conscious you are, the less identified with your ego, the more in alignment you are with your desires as they originally surface. Desires in their purest form are always for the highest purpose for all involved. Desires tainted by the ego often require devious maneuvering such as lying, manipulating, and betrayal. If chasing your desire causes emotional pain for you or others, it’s not in alignment with the pure, original form of the desire.
You’ve no doubt heard plenty of stories of people in different marriages being attracted to one another. Despite the serious problems this can cause, the force of the egoistic desire is sometimes so strong that they take unwise action anyway. A conscious examination would quickly reveal the potential hazards. It’s easy (when not unconsciously caught) to see the work of the ego in this scenario and take a step back and ponder the matter thoughtfully. The desire may reveal the need to address dissatisfaction in their own marriages and the possible fear of commitment stirring the parties to triangulate. Their marriage partners may be missing certain qualities which they then project onto each other in a fantasy. In it’s essence, the desire is giving valuable information, but the ego has taken the “easy” route and projected potential satisfaction onto a third person, outside of the marriage. These projections rarely turn out to be accurate.
With the simple knowledge and awareness that desires in their original form are always good for all and never involve hurt or deception of any kind, a little questioning can help you determine when your ego is involved and you may be fantasizing.
Taking healthy responsibility for life requires being able to see when desires are pure and when they’re ego-filtered. Looking for the red flags and refraining from action that’s not for the good of all is helpful in bringing greater harmony and flow into life. When you choose the highest purpose for all involved, you can be sure you’ll receive it too. You always get what you want for others. It’s a Law.