As life changes, we have to change with it. With change come decisions, some great and some small. There are a lot of people that hate to make decisions because they are afraid of what others may think. It could be a haircut, an outfit, moving, or a personal decision to change who you are. Are you afraid of what your friends may think?
Some people get caught up in not doing things because they feel that others won’t like it. A lot of us will say that we don’t care what our friends think but that is not always true. Sometimes we may not care if a friend doesn’t like the way we dress, but we might care when our decision goes against the grain and is life changing.
Why do people care about what others think? Good question. Some people care because they’ve been bullied about some of the decisions they’ve made in the past. You may think that the term bully might not apply, but it’s true. We don’t always allow our friends to make their own decisions. We sometimes don’t even allow them to be true to who they are. We feel more comfortable if they are more like us. As if we are the perfect ones and they are not. Most often, we strongly voice our opinions about things that do not directly affect us. If our friend is happy, then we too should be happy for them.
Voicing your opinion when asked is different, but ultimately the bottom line is how your friend feels about their haircut, an outfit, or whatever decision that they’ve made. The question should be directed back to them “How do you feel about it”. If you’re a true friend and your friend likes it, then you should love it. Whatever decision that they have chosen to make should be quite clear that they made the best decision for them.
It’s easy for our friends to be apprehensive about things when they’ve received negative responses from us in the past. When we overly exaggerate how we feel about their decision we make them feel like they should’ve consulted us to begin with. That’s not right; we should never make a friend feel like their decisions don’t count.
Those people that are afraid of what others will think of them should realize that you can’t make everyone happy. Your life is your own to live and you can’t live your life for others. From the clothes you buy to where you decide to live should be your decision. It’s not possible to please everyone, so you can’t worry about what others think about your decisions; you just have to know that the decisions you made are right for you and your situation.
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