Transparent. Straightforward. Practical. Author, Kim Brooks delivers with her down-to-earth, home girl appeal in her latest book, How to Date and Stay Saved.
Minus the Waiting to Exhale theatrics, Brooks provides biblical principles and common sense advice to singles choosing to remain abstinent until marriage. Instead of singles spending time taking cold showers on a Friday night, Brooks insists that dating can be successful even when sex is not an option. She encourages those who are dating to use the time originally planned for sex to:
2. Establish a friendship first
3. Communicate boundaries
4. Observe the person’s actions, speech, and habits
Brooks also suggests dating activities that focus on the mind instead of the behind such as: cooking lessons, sporting events, picnics, skydiving, volunteering, etc.
What is captivating about Brooks’ approach to abstinence is her ability to not only share her personal experiences of remaining a virgin in a sexually saturated society, but her ability to encourage the reader with her ‘you can do it’ attitude.
“Believing what God says about you, that you are more than a conqueror” (p. 143) and “we must realize, single believers, that God is a real person with real feelings and real desires for you and me” (p. 8) are examples of positive reinforcements Brooks uses to help dating singles remain celibate.
For those of you who need to see it to believe it, How to Date and Stay Saved has got you covered. Brooks doesn’t leave you hanging with a 150 page to-do list. She includes testimonials from married couples who waited until marriage to have sex.
The testimonials encourage the reader to ‘fight the good fight of faith’ and to not ‘grow weary’ in their desire to live pure before God and men. Knowing that other couples made the decision to remain celibate while dating and were successful, provides the reader with a realistic approach to abstinence.
Whether you are a virgin or embracing a lifestyle of abstinence after the fact, How to Date and Stay Saved offers a fresh perpsective on how to date without having sex. How to Date and Stay Saved presents abstinence as not only possible, but enjoyable and worth every minute.
About the Author
Kim Brooks is a virgin, Detroit native, best selling author, licensed minister, and national speaker. Her books include: He’s Fine…But is He Saved?, He’s Saved…But is He for Real? and The Little Black Survival Book for Single Saints. For a free gift, to sign up for her free monthly newsletter for singles, and to get in on the abstinence movement, visit www.DateAndStaySaved.com