So you do not care for the way you look. You find yourself avoiding mirrors. You cannot do some of the things you use to do. You tell yourself that you are getting older so that is why you cannot do those things. You do not seem to have time enough to do the important things you need to do like work and take care of your family. How could you ever have time to change yourself?
Everyone has commitments in life with family and work being some very important ones. Assessing your own situation and what is important to you is critical for you to understand what your goals are in life and what commitments you need to make to reach them. Identifying your long term goals first will help you understand what is truly important to you and this can guide you to specific commitments you need to make at the daily level.
One example of this might be that an important long term goal you identified is that you want to be able to walk your daughter(s) down the aisle at their wedding(s). Assuming you may be in your 50’s or 60’s when the time comes then being in good health and maintaining good health is an important element of this long term goal. So to reach this long term goal you need to make commitments that will help you maintain good health. Eventually you will get to the daily level which just means what will you do on a daily basis that will help you reach this long term goal.
There is a lot of attention these days on good health practices. What exercise programs are the best or which diet will help you lose the most weight. The most fundamental decision(s) you need to make is what will be your commitments. Regular exercise, which has been proven to improve fitness levels and therefore provide continued good health, has to be a primary commitment. A good diet, which has been proven to help control weight, has to be a primary commitment.
The research, evidence, and statistics are overwhelming that fitness improves health. The level of fitness or the amount of exercise needed is not as clear however being active has been proven to have multiple benefits. So maintaining the daily commitments to exercise and follow a healthy diet are more important than what diet you go on or what exercise program you follow. Without the daily commitments none of the other elements will matter in the long run.
Once you have made the daily commitments and have developed the habits to sustain them then I encourage you to enjoy doing different programs. Variety can help you maintain these commitments by keeping your interest level high.