In an effort to express how the music of John Mellencamp touches our everyday lives, a display of one picture and one lyric, will be posted every day as part of a year-long project. Images and thoughts to ponder. This is picture # 52.
Death Letter from Trouble No More
(written by Son House)
‘Cause you know love will make you do things you don’t want to
Sometimes love will make you feel so sad and blue
You know, it’s hard to love somebody when they don’t love you
No, there’s no satisfaction, none, no matter what you might do
I said, hush I thought I heard her call my name
It sounds so loud, it sounds so plain.
I said hush
Here’s to the death of love, that love who couldn’t love you back no matter what you might’ve done. What is it about this kind of love that keeps us coming back for more? Why do we think that if we just try one more time, that this time it will work out alright? If only we could be, say, have, do, whatever it is, you can fill in the blank here, that this time it will be enough? Why do we insist on trying to be what and who we are not, just to have the love of someone who clearly doesn’t love us to start with? Why? Is it the chase? The challenge? The sense of incredulous disbelief that it isn’t love at first sight? The stubborn streak that pushes us to prove that person wrong, that we are in fact, very lovable indeed, and if they could just see us as we see ourselves, we’d live happily ever after? That if they loved us as much as we loved them, it’d all work out right?
Give it up. Let it die. Don’t even let it take its first gasping breath of life.
Love at first sight. That’s the way it should be. When two people are in the beginning stages of a relationship, they tend to reveal themselves fairly quickly. In a million different ways; in conversation, in the spaces in between the words, in what they do, and what they won’t do and it’s in their history. It’s in the relationships they have with their families and friends. It’s all there if you stop and look. If you listen. If you know before you ever take that first step, what does it for you, what do you have to have in a relationship? What do you refuse to accept, tolerate, or participate in, in a relationship? Really, what do you want, and what do you need? And that other person is all too eager to show you who they are, both what they’re willingly allowing you to see, and what you have to trust that your instinct will tell you. Can they give you what you want? What you need? Do they love you for who you truly are on the inside? The answers are there right from the start. You will see it all, at first sight. Rarely does any relationship end for reasons that weren’t glaringly obvious from the start.
So if it isn’t love at first sight, forget about it. Don’t waste another second giving your heart, your mind, and your time to someone who cannot ever love you. It will turn you into someone you don’t even recognize. It will make you do things you don’t want to. It will make you sad and blue.
And there is no satisfaction. No matter what you might do.
Love and Happiness~ Christine