Dealing With Bullies: Physical Violence
Unfortunately, in some cases, despite our best efforts, we will be forced to physically defend ourselves from bullies.
Untrained, this is very likely to be as terrifying as it will be ineffective. Bullies are typically more experienced in physical violence; be it from parents, siblings, or simply through practice. They are typically bigger and stronger than their prey. And, if you do manage to conquer them physically, the question still remains: How far do you go?
At what point does self defense become “proving a point”? At what point does it become excessive force? At what point do you get seen as psychotic instead of simply terrified? At what point do you get off with a warning vs get expelled? At what point could you accidentally cause serious, even fatal harm?
Unfortunately, these questions cannot be summaraized, they cannot be put into article form. They must be taught, experienced, and practiced. In short, you must take martial arts.
Of course first, you must choose your martial arts school. The last thing you want is to go to some jock-ridden steroid junkie gym filled with the very people you are attempting to confront.
Once you find the right dojo for you, you still must be patient. While I’ve seen students attain quite impressive levels of skill from even one hour of private martial arts training at Shinka, (which we offer for free) I would still caution people to do everything they can to avoid physical violence and only to use it as a last resort.
Not only because one should avoid violence, ethically, but also because martial arts, like any skill, takes some time to absorb fully, and, it is one thing to know what to do, and another entirely to do, what you know needs to be done.
If you do decide to stop by my school in particular, get me to show you the “bully block” – it is an excellent tool against bullies in particular, and, it allows for misdirection, social upheaval, and standing up to the bully, all without striking back.
Sensei Ono, Shinka Martial Arts
Author of The Key to Awesome: The Step by Step Guide to Having an OUTSTANDING Life
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- Dealing With Bullies: Using Misdirection
- Dealing With Bullies: Staging a Social Revolt
- Dealing With Bullies: Opening a Dialog
- Dealing With Bullies: Physical Violence