When you’re in the dating game, sometimes you’ll find yourself negotiating certain terms and conditions with a person that you’re interested in pursuing. Likewise, your date may have some level of interest in you as well. With that said, the both of you have something you want from each other and depending on the mutual interest, a discussion of what you’ll are willing to do or willing to compromise to get what you want from each other eventually takes place. Hence, the unspoken agreement or unique arrangement called a Dating Contract. Basically, its symbolic of a business contract which outlines an agreement and understanding between at least two parties. Business contracts can be very simple, yet so complex that a lawyer is sometimes needed for interpretation or representation on behalf of the clients.
In comparison, dating contracts can be just as simple and even more complicated at times, yet only we wish a lawyer can be present in some cases. Why? Because a dating contract is never written down. All it takes is one of the parties to miscommunicate, deliberately have amnesia, or have a total misunderstanding for everything to breakdown. Unfortunately, a breach of contract is guaranteed to happen sooner or later. In other words, things can get real ugly when somebody is used and when feelings get hurt. That’s when the wishful thinking of having a lawyer or a tape recording of the initial agreement was there for you to say..” I told you so”!
Examine this scenario: Joe goes out on a date with Jane. They had so much chemistry and was so attracted to each other that they began to hold hands and indulged in a romantic kiss. At the end of the date, Joe confesses to Jane that he isn’t looking for a relationship, but he would love to take her out on another date and will understand if she respectfully declined. Jane mutually liked him too and after knowing Joe’s intentions, she agreed to go out on another date. They went out three more times and on the fourth date, they concluded the evening by having passionate sex for the first time. The next morning, Jane asked Joe how he feels about being in a relationship with her. Joe was steadfast, yet heartfelt in his response by saying he is still not interested in looking for a relationship and needed more time. Jane was so upset that she kicked Joe out and now Joe and Jane are no longer dating.
Who do you think breached the dating contract in this scenario?
In closing, dating contracts can be as simple or as complex as you want them to be, but be realistic about what you want and how you feel upfront when making such agreements with your next date. Have fun, but keep it real so that you won’t feel like you’ve been setup like Joe or somehow feeling used like Jane.
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