No matter how you look at it, asking for something but focusing on the lack of is never a recipe for success.
The gist is whether you look at it from a purely psychological point of view or your approach is more spiritual, asking for something while maintaining a steady focus on the lack will not bring about success. A quick search into successful leaders and entrepreneurs always yield the same results, strong, healthy desire coupled with a positive focused attitude is the recipe. But why is it so hard to do for many?
A Question Of Education. The pillar of society is education. Without education, societies don’t evolve and history is awash with examples. Educating our young ones is crucial to survival, as well as giving the next generation the same chances we had. But our education lacks fundamental aspects for complete success. It focuses mainly on the external world and barely scratches the surface of mind over matter.
The Underused Inner World. No matter how you look at it, every single man made object around you started as an idea. Yet, isn’t incredible our early education can be summed up as learning to control the space we occupy and perfecting our body movement through it? Rare are the schools that teach children how to use their minds, the focus being on influencing the external world. Indeed, how much more successful we would be having been taught to still the mind in order to focus? How about, letting a child learn hers or his inner process to critical analysis and thinking for better results based on personal insight? This surely would bring about a generation of successful and happy people.
As we progress from youthful exuberance to experience the ups and downs of life, we become a little more timid and eventually notice the negative things that happen to us. At that stage, most of us intensely focus on avoiding the pain brought by these experiences. And there lies the crux, we become focused on the negative aspects of experiences, the lack of, relegating the potentials to a distant maybe. Negative experiences are excellent teachers to those who understand their values and learn to modify their behaviors.
Simply put, when we ask for something, we can only achieve it by having undeterred, yet intelligent enthusiasm toward our goal. A healthy attitude certainly opens more doors than a negative one. Asking alone is part of the solution, working for it involves setting actions toward our desires. If we focus on the lack, we set forth more thoughts and actions that lead against the original desire. Remembering these points as we go on our daily lives is the difference between successful people and those who live in the twilight of hope. For most, a good coach makes the difference, whether at the start of the realization that there must be another way or for those who want to achieve even more success, between hoping and getting desires met.