“The Talk” covered the topic of “emotional vampires” on their Wednesday show. An emotional vampire could be described as someone in your life who leaves you feeling stressed out and drained. If you feel like you can never please the person, that they put you down and are only concerned about themselves, you are dealing with an emotional vampire. The co-hosts on “The Talk” discussed a book by Judith Orloff called “Emotional Freedom: Liberate Yourself from Negative Emotions and Transform Your Life”. It breaks down emotional vampires into five categories:
1-The Narcissist. This is the “me first” person in your life. Your discussions are always about them, and if they aren’t, this person will turn the conversation back to them. They are so into themselves and their life that they never seem to ask you about you and yours.
2- The Victim. This is the “poor me” person in your life. They love to be the victim and if you are having a bad day they are having a worse day than you. If you are sick, they are sicker. They like to complain about everything wrong in their life, but never want to take advice or do take any steps to make their life better.
3- The Controller. We all know these people; they are the ones that start out every conversation with, “You know what you need”, or “You know what you should do”. The more their own life seems out of control, the more they would like to control yours. They enjoy telling other people what to do and how to do it.
4- The Constant Talker. These people generally don’t care about your feelings. They like to talk, a lot. They prefer to talk about themselves. When they do talk about you, it is usually in a criticizing way.
5- The Drama Queen. This is that friend of yours that loves to over exaggerate everything. What may be a little problem in your reality is a giant issue to your drama queen. He or she can be exasperating because they are constant drama in your life.
Do you have any of these types of people in your life? For those of you who have rid yourselves of your emotional vampires, did you tell them why you were putting them out of your life or simply disappear and ignore them? Speaking from experience, I usually tell the person why I won’t be having them in my life anymore, though there have been a couple of occasions that I just let the friendship die with no explanation.
Sara Gilbert, a co-host and executive producer of “The Talk” made excellent points about why some of us keep these emotional vampires in our lives. They must serve some purpose to us in order for us to put up with their behavior. You can see the video of the co-hosts discussion on this topic by clicking on the video to the left of this article.
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