Yesterday, I took a casual stroll with my husband along Lake Pontchartrain. February in South Louisiana is the beginning of spring. The weather is often comfortably warm with a gentle breeze and very little humidity. During our stroll, I attempted to remember the last time we had held hands and just walked. The way couples lovingly hold hands when they are dating. This is the time in a relationship when you want to be close for closeness sake. You love being with your significant other, and will use every opportunity to show how much.
The sharing of bills, career pressures, kids, and living everyday life can make us forget these inexpensive pleasures. You get caught up in the monotonous routine of living life. In this state of mind you can begin to forget why many of us choose to share our lives with someone. We desire someone to love and to sincerely feel connected. Here are some simple techniques to keep the flames burning as brightly as when the two of you first met.
Be touch feely
Touching is a strong sign of affection between human beings. Hugging is probably the most effective touching activity. Both the hugger and hugee receive an instant chemical free “pick me up.” Hugs provide a great way to forget about your daily duties. A second advantage, a full body hug can be a terrific prelude to a romantic night later. You can also hold your mate’s hand at various times to convey your love. Research has shown that touching is a strong communication tool. You can say I love you several times a day without uttering one word. Here’s an extra benefit, a simple touch has been found to reduce both pain and stress.
Little signals only understood by you and your special guy or gal should be in the relationship tool essentials kit. A wink here or a bump there just to say, “I’m with you” is positively relationship gold. These secret gestures are a display of solidarity with your partner. Their also fun and can lighten otherwise intense moments. Whenever I’m really upset, my husband has this silly expression that forces me to smile.
Free as a bird
Spontaneity can be one of the first causalities of a committed relationship. You do all that work to be exclusive, only to forget why you wanted to be. A phone call just to find out what your special someone is doing. Sexual encounters in the middle of the day because you haven’t seen him or her in three hours. If love and commitment is the salt and pepper in a great relationship, then being unpredictable has to be the spice. Break your ordinary routine by doing something different and out of the ordinary. Here’s an alternative to going to your usual eating spot. Get take out, drive to a picturesque place and enjoy a quiet dinner for two. Later on, your mate may have a surprise or two for you.
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