Getting to better know your spouse!
What works best for your marriage may not work for someone else! Your relational dynamics are different and each spouse has a different temperament as well! So how do you determine what is right? Is God or the world your barometer? How do you deal with issues? These are questions that few readily address. Quite often they just allow the relationship to happen! A lot of times there are many assumptions about one another? Why? Quite often because you have not taken the time to find out more about one another…
Good communication is a part of a healthy marriage!
It is so very important to confront issues and situations in love! It’s easy to tell someone what to do! But they are not you so carefully weigh your options and respond responsibly. Pray for one another regularly! Sometimes the Lord allows trials in our lives to strengthen our character! God is always and forever faithful!
A good marriage takes work!
All too often many solicit unhealthy advice! They are erroneously encouraged to use manipulation and secrecy rather than to readily confront the situation at hand in a healthy manner! Our emotions, behavior, and actions can be improved when we implement good healthy advice! We grow spiritually and our relationship improves! A good friend will give you sound godly advice!
You should value one another enough to take the time to build a great marriage!
The world says do “whatever feels good.” The Word says “Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not to your own understanding. In all our ways acknowledge Him and He will direct your path.” Proverbs 3. It is important to find out where your spouse is where this is concerned?
Are you on the same page as far as values? What do they value? What do you value?
You would be surprised how many don’t really know? This is why we have so many marriages falling apart! There is a lack of “oneness!” You are on different pages… There is no cohesiveness! It is important to know where your spouse is even if it is painful. Better now than later… Or you could just go on for years and never really know where they are… That’s living in denial! Suddenly you wake up one day and find out that you have drifted apart!
Transparency and intimacy should be a desired goal in building a strong, healthy, growing, satisfying marriage! As you grow there is an escalating lucidity and clarity that brings more of who you are to the surface. Respect, thoughtfulness, care, concern and mutual consideration will grow as well in this type of marriage. You become partners in life!
A high-quality marriage will help to bring out the best in both of you!
You will always have differences! You should you’re different! Have you ever heard “As iron sharpens iron so does one man another…” Proverbs 27. When you sharpen one another your better qualities come forth. Good spouses challenge one another! Bringing your ideas together and laying aside egos can result in building a sound marriage! This actually makes the marriage interesting. You can be aggressive in taking a stance and know it is not a personal put down. You do not seek to verbally abuse, you prefer to strategically brainstorm! If necessary you can table the issue momentarily until you can responsibly deal with the situation. When emotions are out of whack you step back and take “time out!” You allow one another space to breathe and regroup…
Oneness does not mean giving up who you are as individuals! It means giving more of who you are to the relationship! It means that you both mutually yield yourself to what’s good for the marriage! You become flexible rather than rigid…
You value one another! You are friends in mind, body and spirit and how you both feel are important. You want one another to be the best that they can be! Marriage is not a sentence it is an adventure! You enjoy doing things together! Your marriage is a priority!
A good marriage takes two strong individuals! A healthy marriage focuses on one another’s strengths rather than what divides you! How you can build one another up rather than tear one another down! Readily abandoning and letting go of dysfunctional relationship dynamics! You choose not to live in denial! You do not totally fall apart when you are stressed! Each spouse seeks to support, serve and submit to one another as well as to the Lord! Submission in the form of meekness yields strength. Meekness is power under control! The well being of one another is always important! In a great marriage you both become better individuals! Start today getting to better know your spouse! This says “I am in to you!”