In a blended family sitation, mothers, father, step mothers step fathers, children of all ages are rather prone to some emotional ups and downs. It happens in any situation, the stress and sometimes seemingly off occurances can lead to emotional meltdowns. Some are bigger than others, but in time, they always pass in time.
Speaking of meltdowns, how ’bout that tsunami and earthquake in Japan earlier this year? When a crisis like Japan happens, shouldn’t it put things in perspective? In a country that faced a true nuclear meltdown and things seemed to progressively get worse every hour, take a good look at some elements in your life. Doesn’t seem so bad, does it?
Sometimes it takes a disaster. The fear and devastation of the people on the news can put things in perspective. So what if Sally is wearing flip flops when there’s snow outside. A short while with cold feet might just be the learning lesson she needs. Worse things can happen, like an earthquake, cancer or a horroble accident. The little things in life are always upon us- including the people. We just need to look for them. That way Joey smiles when he sees you, the way Laney leaves wet footprints on the floor when getting out of the bath, they sticky fingerprints, the toys in the hallway. Appreciate it, because in a heartbeat, it can be gone.
Thousands of people all over the world are wishing they had a little one to whine over bedtime. They are wishing they too could trip over toys of a little one in the dark, some are wishing for a home period. Right now, a mother is finding it hard to go on as her child is no longer with her. Right now it may be a step parent that’s explaining to a small boy why his mother is not coming back. A step father is bracing to raise a child who no longer has a father. Disasters strike, tragedy occurs. Death happens every minute of everyday. It’s not always fair, it’s not always right, but it is always there. While of course some of these things are the extreme, it should serve as a wake up call. Do we really need to make it as difficult as it is? Whether you are a mother, a father, a step parent or a child, let’s take a good look at how good our lives really are.
Many of the meltdowns in blended families can be avoided if we really were to just appreciate what we have. While much easier said than done, start looking for things to be grateful for. Tired of the back and forth up and downs of a crazy visitation schedule? Think about how hard it would be to explain to a child that due to a natural occurrence, their father isn’t coming to pick them up. Tired of your ex nitpicking everything you do? Be grateful your ex is there to alleviate some of the parenting duties off you. Tired of a step parent always being around your child? Be grateful that there’s one more person to love and care for your child. No child ever had too much love, right? Don’t like the way your ex feed your child McDonalds every weekend? Be grateful that your child has food. Plenty all over the world right now are wondering where their next meal will come from, many know it will be a long time before being able to eat again.
As in life, the little things are so easily forgotten. This is the time of year where giving thanks and appreciation to our lives and what’s in it is foremost. Make it last. While Thanksgiving is over, there’s no need to stop giving thanks for even the little things we have. Take a moment to make a list of things you are grateful for. Review this list and add to it as often as you can. Not only will your appreciation of life increase, but it will seem that that the things we once complained about are no longer such a big deal.