The definition of Board Exams does not only involve the students who are taking the exam but also involves their teachers and parents. In fact if one sees deeper he/ she will find that parents and teachers are more anxious and tensed than the students. The feeling of stress and anxiety looms more upon the parents as they believe that the future of their child depends upon these exams that mark the beginning of the learner’s academic and professional career. On the other hand teachers get bugged up upon the learner’s performance in their particular subjects as they feel that their performance as a teacher is inter-related to the learner’s performance in their subject.
If this is the scene then it’s a plea to the parents and the teachers that please relax and stop feeling so perturbed about the performance of your child. It’s obvious for the parents and the teachers to feel this way but it is not acceptable to expose this in front of their children and students. The simple reason behind this is that as it is the learner is tensed and at this moment it might not be proper to load so many expectations on the learner. Instead the teachers and the parents can motivate and encourage the learners in these simple methods.
1) For the parents:
a) The first thing that the parents need to do is relax and feel calm. If they remain stress free then only they can make their children feel comfortable and stress free during the time of their examination.
b) Avoid nagging the learner continuously about his revision and how many hours he is spending on a subject. This makes the learner feel bored and reduces his interest in that particular subject. Instead enter into a general conversation with the learner and ask him about his preparation. Talk it out with him by referring to the interesting techniques that he can apply to remember the difficult points of the lessons.
c) Always try showering inspiring words like ‘You can do it!’, ‘ Boards are just normal routine exam and you will come out with flying colors’, ‘Don’t worry about the results, just give your best,’ ‘ Dad and Mom are always with you,’ and many such loving messages that will make the feel secured and at the same time increase in confidence level.
d) Accompany your child to places that he likes so that the child gets some fresh air that would help his mind to relax. These breaks are very important in the middle of their revision schedule as the learner feels fresh and confident.
e) Avoid predicting the future in front of the learner. Do not put targets in front of the learner as this makes the leaner burdened with responsibility and fear at the same time that what might happen if he cannot reach that target and meet the expectation. Due to this most of the time learners take a drastic step which might prove to be a fatal loss for the parents.
f) Do not be too harsh to the child if the child is not giving enough time to his revision. At such moments just try to be a friend and interact with your child and make him understand the importance of revision. Sometimes just a normal chit-chat works out wonders for the child.
Parents remember although it’s an examination for you also, but it is your child who has to face the situation in the examination hall. So try to make him ready to face and deal with any type of consequence during the time of examination instead of making him weak and feel burdened under your expectations and criteria that you tend to set in front of your child.