It was in the early 70’s and in the state of Arkansas. We were all at the dinner table; mom, dad and five of us children. He was upset because one of my brothers had asked for more water and to punish him he was forcing my brother to drink glasses after glass of water. Mom stood across the table from where dad sat and told him to stop. Instead of stopping, he stood up, drew back and with a closed fist he hit her with all of his might. Stunned and afraid, we watched as she flew back mid-air into a coffee table, breaking it with her fall. She sat up on the floor, holding one of her arms as it bled from a deep cut she suffered from broken glass of an ash tray that had been on the coffee table when she fell on it. Despite her condition, she called him names and cussed him out before she left the house to borrow a neighbor’s phone to call the police. Share your opinion. Should we have a mandatory arrest law for domestic violence in Texas?
Don’t make him mad again ma’am and you sir, settle down was all they said.
Those are the words we heard the police tell our parents back then and nothing else was done. A lot has changed, especially in Texas. Each state has different laws on how domestic violence is handled. A very, very important step to take is to know what the local state laws say regarding the arrest of an abuser, your rights and the resources available to you. The Texas statues that reference this problem are under the Code of Criminal Procedures. Note that in Texas, there is no mandatory arrest policy for domestic violence according to the American Bar Association but a discretionary arrest provision. Do take the time to review their list to get an overview of all the states and another site to visit is an eHow article “Domestic Violence Arrest Laws” which gives a more detailed picture of the various state laws.
Children do not know their parents are abusive until they get older, they just live in fear.
What kind of abuse was this situation? Do you know? The eHow article “How to know if there is abuse in your relationship” outlines the four types of abuse. Take time to read it and think about any of the times either you or your children have to experience this.
There is hope.
Texas is aware of this dilemma and we have laws and resources to help us. Find a safe place to start your research. Become an international spy and find safe places to keep valuable information and together we will work on a plan. Tell no one about what you learn unless you are absolutely sure you can trust them.
Let not your heart be troubled.