How much time is too much time?
If all we are going to be is boyfriend and girlfriend, I would rather have a lot of boyfriends, it is a lot less stressful and lot more fun. Words to live by.
Life is full of obstacles and many of us tend to take the most difficult road. Why is that? Well here is a theory, people are desperately afraid of failing and being alone. Not to mention it is so easy to come up with excuses of why your life is where it is. So many times I hear people saying, they have been with someone so long and that they have so much time invested that it is hard to leave them. Seriously!! What the hell. Talk about putting no value on your life. What are you hoping for after being in relationship with someone for 5+ years? It can’t be marriage, because you don’t even have a ring. Or how about this one, “We already live together what is the rush to get married.” Let’s reword this and say, “We already live together why not get married.” Man, watch the expression on your mates face after that comment.
A dusty relationship
By settling for a glass half full you are still thirsty, especially after years of eating dust. What is dust; it is what is left behind after years of a long tedious relationship that is still standing in the same place it was one year after you met. You see even though you move around, it is only a little so all you are doing is kicking up dirt and dust but when it settles, it lands right back where it was. Sometimes it shifts a bit to the left or right just to try to fool us into believing things are moving forward. Tricky I tell you nothing but tricks.
The primary goal is what?
We have to ask ourselves how much time is too much time to be in relationship with no true commitment? Who is it benefiting? Here is the thing if you waste too much time on wasting time you are not getting out of life the entire God wants for you. So don’t give me “this is my soul mate” crap, because guess what if it is it wouldn’t take so long to commit.
Look up commitment in the dictionary and then look up soul mate.
- Commitment: obligate, responsible, do.
- Soul-mate: not in the dictionary.
“Just Do It”
So here is the challenge just “do it” challenge your mate to be responsible, and obligate themselves to you in a marriage ceremony. Be willing to do something for yourself. Really move forward and demand more life is so short, don’t die saying should of could of would of. Commit to a real life of happiness. Hey relationships are tough but if seasoned right they still taste good.
Here is another thing to consider, you are willing to settle for them, but are they willing to settle for you?
“(Love) bears all things believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things” 1 Cor 13:7.