“The human heart is the most deceitful of all things, and desperately wicked. Who really knows how bad it is? But I, the Lord, Search all hearts and examine motives. I give all people their due rewards, according to what their actions deserve.” -Jeremiah 17:9-10
Trusting your spouse and giving them your heart with pure motives is not always an easy thing to do. Especially if your past has unpleasant memories that you have yet to put to rest. Infidelity, alcholism, abuse, gambling are just a few situations that plague marriages today. Many people choose to stay with their spouse and “work it out” but fail to forgive. Other couples stay together for “the kids” or for financial reasons. If you are in this situation, and you believe in God, know that He will search your heart and find your motives.
A loveless marriage doesnt benefit anyone.If you elect to stay in a marriage, for whatever reason, examine your heart and make it worth it. It’s easy to be married, but to have a quality marriage takes love, dedication, commitment, forgiveness and trust. You must be willing to put your heart on a chopping block not knowing if your spouse will let down the mallet or put his/her heart with yours on the block. When both partners are equally invested in their marriage, it strengthens and becomes a place of refuge for the two and a safe haven for love to flourish. We must always remember that hearts are examined by God and our motives can not be kept secret from the almighty higher power!
How do you change the motives of an an unloving heart towards your spouse? It starts by forgiveness. You must first be willing and able to forgive yourself and then be able to forgive your spouse for everything. Yes everything. You must also be willing to confess. You don’t have to go into detail, but you must be willing to admit you were wrong about something. We all have been wrong, nobody is perfect. You may find that your spouse is not as able or willing to forgive and/or confess as you are and that’s ok, just make sure your heart is pure. And whatever you do, don’t ever hold an act of forgiveness or confession against your spouse. Especially if it’s something you’ve been waiting to hear. Simply appreciate the fact that whatever plagued your marriage is out in the open and move forward with good motives of the heart.
I hope you enjoyed reading this article. My marriage has survived alcoholism, bankruptcy and a few other trials. My husband and I were both willing to confess, forgive and continue loving each other and we are blessed because our tests produced a great testimony. Here’s to love! Check out my other articles and subscribe today!