King Solomon of ancient Israel had 200 wives and 600 concubines. Pastor Jason Lineberger of the IgniteChurch in Greenville, North Carolina in part two of his series on the Song of Solomon takes the words for his own for a sermon of how to apply it to the relationship with your wife in the accompanying video.
According to the Bible king Solomon was one of the wisest and most intelligent people who has ever lived. Last week if you were here to review he wrote over 2,000 songs and 1,006 poems. He was someone who was a prolific writer and for anyone who has read the story of King Solomon by the time he died he had over 400 wives and 600 concubines. I don’t know what changed in him or what he felt about this little groupie group but I’m believing that this was his very first love. He might even have made this song up but this song describes what real love is like. What real love between a man and a woman looks like. If you were here last week we talked about using our mouths to bless and praise our spouse and those of you who are here today and are married I hope that you will do that. I hope that every single day you will compliment your spouse and lift them up and encourage them. If you are criticizing your spouse, if you are laying them low and if you are cutting them down don’t be surprised if they start acting the way we speak to them. But, if you encourage them and praise them they will grow to be the man of God or the woman of God that you believe them to as Solomon did in this poem to this woman called Shulamite.
What we are going to do today is look at this song. Not that we can look at every single little piece because it is so good but with all the things to talk about in this series and all of the other things we have to hit before Easter time what we are going to talk about now is using your mouth and how we can use our bodies to bless our spouse. We talked before about using it for communication and today we are going to be talking about the importance of physical touching. and physical intimacy and those of you who are a little freaked out about your pastor talking about that get over it. It is a great part of married life and every thing we are talking about today is all really appropriate in the context for marriage so please don’t misunderstand me because I know some of you might not be married yet and you get the higgly jiggglies every time someone you like touches you but what we are talking about today is really only appropriate for married couples but for those people who are single I hope you ill begin to look at these things and begin to see how wonderful and good physical intimacy is in marriage. Because we are in a culture that seems to believe in the opposite. As a matter of fact when you turn on your television the people who are having really good sex and the people who are having a really great time with physical intimacy are people who are not married. The married couples? They are miserable! They never have sex and when they do have it it is really very very bad. That is a lie from our culture that we are trying to break wide open today. So if you are married I hope you are having great sex and if you aren’t married who knows God might bring you someone to be married with soon. I want you to be able to enjoy that time with them.
The way our culture thinks about sex kind of reminds me of this story that I heard. There was this boy need Johnny and he went to a Christian school and was 16 years old and one day when he went to school he was acting very very threatened. He wasn’t doing his work and he just seemed purely miserable. His teacher went up to him and said, “Johnny what’s wrong? You aren’t acting like yourself. You aren’t doing the things you are supposed to do I can tell that something happened what’s going on?”
He said, “I hate to tell you teacher but last night I tried to get something out of my parent’s bedroom and I walked in at night and I caught them having sex..”
The teacher said, “Ohhh!”
And he said, “Ohhh! I can’t get it out of my mind.”
The teacher said, “It’s OK they’re married it’s cool. What do you think the Bible says about married people having sex?”
And he said, “I don’t know what it says but I know what I hope it say’s. “
She says, “What do you hope it says?”
He replies, “Don’t do it!”
For a lot of people it’s funny but that is what they actually think the Bible says about sexuality. About physical intimacy and a lot of Christians are under the false impression that the Bible says just avoid it. It’s dirty and nasty and icky don’t do it. I want you to know that if you are married God is very honored and pleased that a husband comforts his wife and his wife comforts her husband with physical intimacy. It’s a very good thing and we are going to be looking at that today.
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