It begins the very moment our mothers turn to our fathers and say, “We’re having a baby!” Depending on the gender, the budding family is soon over run with pink bows and bottles and bibs or blue hats, wall hangings and hand rattles. And, the joy of being identified by our outward appearance begins.
It is the joy of belonging simply because we look similar to those lumped into the same group or groups that we are. The joy of the secure feeling we experience when something tells us we are not alone.
Advance your life forward a few years and think about that girl scout/boy scout uniform you wore. How awkward it would have been to wear that green sash or that yellow neckerchief if nobody else was sporting it. How strange you would have felt, had you been wearing the uniform alone. While it is fun and self fulfilling to exercise your unique qualities, thereby showing yourself you are not in danger of being lost in a crowd, it can be just as self satisfying and fun to form bonds of sameness with those around you.
It’s an experience blended families can use to expand on the idea that “family” does not just cover Mommy and Daddy and sisters and brothers. For those of you in Shreveport, you need look for this experience no further than the ever-growing fan base for the Shreveport Mudbugs.
It is at these games that you can sit by a complete stranger, and just because you’re wearing the black, the teal and the blue, you are one…one with a person you have never even seen before, much less held a conversation with. It is at these games that you can sit dumbfounded by your lack of hockey knowledge, barely able to follow the puck, yet bodycheck the fan in front of you and add your at-the-top-of-your-lungs scream to those around you when a Mudbug makes a goal.
Imagine joining in the wave with your step daughter and/or step son. Think about how heartwarming it would be to see them pass that wave on to your own kid/s and then on to the fan lucky enough to be sitting by them. All the while wearing those colors that help identify the larger family you are now apart of. That family that gets giddy round about October every year when the hockey season starts. That family that crosses the river together to fill up the CenturyTel Center and cheer on the Mudbugs. That family that has a common bond, a safe subject to talk about during awkward moments, a matching splurge of spirit for the black, teal and the blue.
The 2010-2011 season is well underway but never too far gone for you to jump into the action. Find the next home game and grab everything blue and black and teal out of your family’s closets, then dress to impress a Mudbug. If you’re feeling extremely Mudbug wild and crazy, get out the face paint and make a statement. Or markers and crayons and make team signs.
Join Shreveport’s hockey family and strengthen the sense of togetherness your blended family thrives on. Oh, and while you are championing this extremely important aspect of your blended family, don’t forget to have fun.