That was the headline in The Daily Item printed in Sunbury, PA on Monday. No doubt the headline on the front page was meant to grab the attention of readers who glanced at the paper. It’s when you actually read it that it becomes less titillating and just plain sad. The article goes on to show what college students are going through in their personal lives at our universities. Even though the article was about Bucknell University it can be said it goes on every where.
This is not good news to those parents who have kids in college (my son is a senior at York College – so I know this to be true) and may be wondering what actually goes on during after school hours. In case you are not up on the current vernacular, its called “hooking up”. What this means is that kids get together, drink a little, party some, and then have sex. Kids may not even know each other very well or at all and more than likely its unprotected sex since it is done in the “heat” of the moment. Isn’t it great moms and dads, you daughter or son is having sex with someone just because it feels good. Gone are the days that sex is saved for marriage, gone are the days that sex is for that someone special, and in are the days of doing it just because you can. No wonder our young girls are disillusioned about relationships, and no wonder that our boys treat women as sex objects. As I said earlier, its just plain said.
If there is any good news to this “hooking up” culture, it’s that most kids involved in it want out. It’s just that they keep participating in it. Our young people want a normal relationship, just plain old fashioned dating, this according to Donna Freitas, a religion professor at Boston College. Freitas goes on to say that there is not any dating on campus anymore and that is what students want. Somebody needs to start the dating trend so it continues. I’m sure we realize that a great percentage of marriages come from dating in college. Today that does not seem to be true. Just look at you son or daughter’s facebook page and see what goes on in your child’s life. Scary, very scary.
Hats off to new Bucknell University President John Bravman for looking into to the “hook up” culture on campus. Universities should be compelled to do this to at least cut down on the number of sexual assaults, unwanted pregnancies, kids dropping out of school and even worse – suicide. But the thing that we must do as parents is talk to our kids in college and warn them of the impending eternal consequences of this activity as well as the consequences here on earth. STD’s, depression, isolation, fear, peer pressure, and lack of good grades are all possible. Bring your children up in the House of the Lord and teach them the way that Jesus wants us to live. We need to get them involved in one of the many religious organizations on campus (Campus Crusade for Christ, Fellowship of Christian Athletes, and InterVarsity just to name a few) so we can give our young people a fighting chance for some type of normal relationship that will carry through for the rest of their life.