Ever done the lip-to-forehead test for a fever, or taken one look at your child and know they had a bad day? How about you knew your baby was sick even though the doctor said all is well, or that your child was coming to tattle on a sibling before they even open their mouths?
My personal favorite is when we “see” without seeing our child disobey with they eyes in the back of our heads. Once we enter motherhood, we start to develop what has been called (and highly sought after by those who do not possess it) “mommy-intuition”. This is the ability to “just know” when it comes to your child. This phenomenon non-mothers do not understand, men can’t comprehend, and kids are baffled as to how mom knew. All joking aside, “mommy-intuition” is very much a real and helpful tool when it comes to your children. It is someting I like to refer to as a mother’s super power.
Sometimes we can sense something or see a change in our child that others cannot. As our children grow, our “mommy-intuition” grows as well. In the beginning we search the text books for signs of what is going on with our baby, call the doctor with every bump and sneeze. There is nothing wrong with this. It actually can help moms rest assured that what they thought was the case, was indeed actually true. Not to mention, it helps build our confidence. And if we had no idea what was wrong, it gave us answers and knowledge to file away for “the next time”. These circumstances help build the foundation for our “mommy-intuition”.
Moms tend to flock to other moms. Ever heard the saying “birds of a feather flock together”? Well, it is true for moms. Get a group of ladies together and the mothers will seek one another out. The room will soon be buzzing of sleepless nights, dirty diapers, loose teeth, first days of school, and curfews. It just happens (hey, maybe that is “mommy-intuition, too-the ability to seek one another out!). The friendships between moms is different than one formed on the play ground or in a dorm room. Moms share a bond that is never changing. Once you become a mom, you are always a mom. Many times moms turn to other moms for advice, wisdom and experience. These other fellow moms help to increase our development of “mommy-intuition”. Through their help we learn to trust our first thought, realize we are not so crazy to think “that”. Our “mommy-intuition” was right.
All that said, if you think something is wrong, call your child’s doctor. Even though we moms acquire quite a bit of knowledge from one another, most of us do not have medical degrees. If you think there is a problem at school, have a meeting with your child’s teacher. We can only gather so much information from a “bad day” at school. Learn to know your child’s friends, and their parents. We cannot be with our children constantly, especially as they get older. Being involved helps increase your “mommy-intuition” with your child.
Being a mom is not easy. It is a 24/7, 365 days a year job. There are no vacations or sick days, the pay is nonexistent, the job is tiring and unrelenting. However the benefits are iirreplaceable. Not only is it incredible to watch our little ones grow and become independent people, but it helps build and shape who we are. Mothers are not just any old ladies, we are ladies who posses (and know it), “mommy-intuition”. Tap into your mommy super power! Embrace it!