How successful have you been in sticking to your New Year’s resolutions? Psychology students are of the mindset that it generally takes an average of 21 days to formulate a habit. Today being January 21st I woke up this morning asking how many people have stuck with their commitments when they rang in the new year?
I asked some of my readers and here is what they had to say:
*Felicity from Colorado stated;‘Absolutely! I have gone 21 days, five hours, 14 minutes without a cigarette. I am so excited I hope it sticks.’
*Jessica from the Springs stated; ‘I bought a Wii set up complete with the ‘Biggest Loser’ program and I have made it through the first 15 minutes of the 29 minute workout… so no. But I did spend a lot of money.’
*Tammie stated; ‘I have gone to the gym five times so I guess so.’
*Aaron simply stated; ‘no… I don’t know why I make these resolves.’
Some people have made a success out of their resolves but many others have not. Those that have not feel like they failed which is not really fair to their self esteem and self worth. That isn’t fair to you. There are many reasons why New Year Resolutions fail (below is just a short list).
- People make these resolves on the spur of the moment.
- Some people make these resolves under the influence.
- Some make their resolves under stress.
- People come up with something just so they can feel a part of the group.
Don’t beat yourself up. All it does is create more problems. Instead look at the resolution and why you made it. Was it something you really need to do or was it an impulse buy (everyone else doing it so you had to join in). If it was important and would bring value to your life and those around you start over. There is no harm in starting over, resolutions can be made anytime of the year.
When planning something look at the problem. Create a plan that will fix the root to the problem. Design action steps to combat the issues that are creating the root of the problem. For example; a person is overweight because they are not getting enough exercise and not eating right. Set up a daily action step to exercise in small increments (you can also increase over time). The goal here would be to formulate a habit. But don’t forget the other root issue, not eating right. Create a weekly diet plan when to eat, how much to eat and what to eat daily (again you are looking to create a habit). In a month or two you won’t even need to plan it, you will start to automatically do.
Force yourself to stick with it. No matter how many excuses you come up with (and you will). Make time for yourself to complete the tasks you set for yourself daily. Use a daily ‘To Do’ list if you need to, not only will it keep you on track but you will build up your esteem every time you check another task off the list.
A resolution does not only need to be made on New Years Eve. You can decide to make a resolution today. But make sure you plan it out and stick to it. Remember it takes and average of 21 days to make a habit. Your mind and body will do everything possible to fight you during that period. Keep your focus and remember why you are doing it and you will do just fine.
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