The first San Francisco showing of “No Strings Attached” was at 12:03 this morning at the AMC Van Ness 14 theatre. Yet while the taboo topic of the film has drawn criticism from relationship traditionalists such as those at Focus On The Family, in San Francisco, the concept of a no-strings-attached (NSA) relationship is perhaps more familiar, since the first dating site catering to NSA relationships was founded there in 2006.
“NSA sounds a bit cold and impersonal to some, but the truth is, it does not have to be that way. Unfortunately, without a focus on the relationship always being mutually beneficial, an NSA relationship can often ultimately be far more painful than a failed traditional one”, says Brandon Wade, founder and CEO of San Francisco startup SeekingArrangement.com.
NSA relationships are defined by SeekingArrangement as ‘mutually beneficial relationships’, in which “all parties receive the benefits they seek from an intimate partner, without any commitments beyond the relationship remaining honest and fun”, says Wade.
“Strings” has received generally positive reviews from San Francisco critics so far, with Mick LaSalle of the San Francisco Chronicle stating “Strings” proves that the “harsh and frank coarseness that has become a part of screen comedy in recent years is spilling over into romantic comedy.” Though all and all, LaSalle praised “Strings” for “showing how people think and talk and behave around the whole subject of love – that can only be a good thing.”
NSA is a common component of most modern sugar daddy/sugar baby relationships, according to a report by ABC 20/20. With the idea of non-comital intamacy becoming more popular, it may also be worth noting that the trend may not indicate that people are seeking a lower level of intamacy.
According to the Durex 2010 Sexual Wellbeing Global Survey, 82% of respondents who claimed to be sexually satisfied said they feel respected by their partner during sex. “Mutual respect plays a vital role in a satisfying sex life”, the survey reports.
Wade says the study is further evidence that while dating trends may lead to fewer wedding rings and more terms like “NSA”, people are craving mutual respect and appreciation just as much as ever, and in fact, are now demanding it.
Here are some more points of interest from the 2010 Durex Global Sexual Wellbeing Survey:
- 29% of people say they want their partner to have a higher sex-drive.
- Globally, twice as many men (64%) as women regularly have orgasms.
- Those over 65 are still having sex more than once a week.
- Sexual priorities are changing. We are looking for the softer, more sophisticated side of sex quality time with our partners, romance and a sense of security within the bedroom.
- Feeling close to your partner, feeling loved, respected and secure all impact strongly on our ability to achieve sexual satisfaction.