So you’re just out of a relationship and you have no clue what to do next. The tendency is to want to jump right back into a relationship. Humans are social creatures and generally do not like being alone. However, being alone is sometimes the very thing a person needs in order to heal and remember who they are as an individual.
Have a pity party
So you’re home alone, crying and feeling sorry for yourself. Your heart is broken and you long for your ex to hold you and make you feel better. Go with it. Let it flow. Cry at sappy movies and sad songs. Get it out of your system, girl! Do whatever it takes to let go and mourn. That’s what you are doing. You are mourning the loss of your relationship. It’s part of the healing process.
Rent a chick flick, pop some popcorn, grab the tissues and have a good cry. It’s cleansing, healing and perfectly okay.
Give yourself a makeover
This is the perfect time to change your style. Get a new hairdo, buy new clothes and treat yourself like the special woman you are. This is not the end of your life, but the beginning of a new adventure. You need to do this for you. By taking this step, you have just put your self esteem back in check. You are worth the effort and you know it.
Have a girls’ night out
This is not for the purpose of picking up men. This is for the purpose of connecting and bonding with your girls. Reconnect on a new level. Have some much needed BFF time. Get dressed up, go to dinner, go to a museum, whatever it is that you do with your friends. Enjoy getting to know them again. It will do you a world of good and remind you why they are your BFFs!
Take up a new hobby or volunteer activity
By doing something productive with your time, you have the opportunity to meet new people and heal. Helping others is a great way to forget your own problems and broaden your horizons. You’ll be amazed at how freeing it is to help others and learn new skills.
Join a gym or take up yoga
This is an excellent way to work out your frustrations and bring peace to your mind and soul. When the heart is healing, the rest of the body needs to be healing too. Treat yourself well and love yourself wholly.
These are just a few of the key elements to non-dating after a breakup. Everyone needs time to recover before jumping back into that dating madness. It truly is a jungle out there and in order to survive, one must take special care to tend to her/his healing.
Love yourself and love will follow.