As sinful humans we have an innate desire to feel loved. As sinful humans we have an innate desire to be superior. Furthermore, as sinful humans we have an innate desire to bestow love. With these deep feelings to be loved, to be superior, and to give love, it is obvious why there are so many stressed and abandoned relationships. This is because these feelings are self-centered – which is another innate issue.
Usually in bad relationships, the accusing party can clearly see personality flaws that the other person needs to work on, while a third party can see right away areas that both parties need to work on. These personality flaws generally results in yet another innate desire within sinful humans, the desire to control another person’s actions. We want or “need” to control another person’s actions because we tend to “need” them to treat us in a way so that we can feel needed, loved, and wanted – again, self-centered motivations.
This column is designed to shine the light on you, the reader! If you are reading this column and thinking “Wow this is exactly what so-and-so needs to read”, this is exactly what YOU need to read! The goals of this column are: To educate oneself on why we act the way we do, why we react the way we do, and what we can do to enhance the communication in our relationships.
Within this editorial will be references to many books of authority. Also many psychological exercises will be offered to help readers apply the advice given – this of course is only for those daring enough to work on issues that they see needs attention!
When applied, I hope you come to view these articles as little nuggets of great value. The next article posting will look at the start of all relationships, and what we all have in common, even though we come from varying backgrounds, cultures, and countries. Until then …