Safe sex, not the easiest topic for most parents in this day and age. Yet every generation feels an urgency and a combined wariness surrounding this topic.
To take a brief glimpse backwards in our history. It wasn’t so long ago that young ladies were immediately eligible for marriage once they reached puberty. Even one of the longest series of television, “The Little House on the Prairie” (rated G) laid claim to that practice quite openly. And yet, within only a few decades sex discussions among minors has become taboo if you will and most certainly contraversal within our school systems.
So, who is responsible for our children’s sexual education? Not television, not their peers and not a school councelor who cannot notify the parents when a child seeks their advice. Clearly it is still up to the parents. J. Moore of Stoughton, MA is outraged and has very valid points to make, when speaking on this topic she states: “The age of consent in Massachusetts is 16. Whether it is heterosexual or homosexual the same rule applies. Yet kids as young as 12 can get condoms at school. Without parental consent, without parental knowledge. The packages have puppies and kittens on them. I know of five (5) teen boys who had sex at 12 years old – all using the Middle Schools condom supply, three (3) who waited until the ripe old age of 13 and one (1) who waited until he was 16, only because he didn’t know how to approach a girl and ask. All said they wouldn’t have sex unless they had condoms and that the school really did make it easy for them.”
“If a child is ready to have sex then they should approach the appropriate councilor, have a conversation and then make a decision, the councilor should not be introducing the topic to 12 year olds, that is up to the parents. I understand the need for the child’s privacy but a parent needs to be able to know their kid is having sex or even contemplating it and really get in depth with them about STDs, pregnancy, rape, etc. It is my conversation to have with my child not yours to have and then keep from me. Don’t get me wrong, I definitely believe in safe sex no matter the age, but I want to know what is going on with my child.”
In Swanzey, N.H. the news articles of an AIDS awareness promotion that was banned due to the safe sex kit’s contents: Fox News, CBS News and MSNBC to name but a few has traveled all the way across the country to Florida’s Miami Herald.
Flavored lubricant and candy seem too overwhelming or inappropriate to introduce to a young budding teen, but the issue of AIDS still stands. The reason AIDS advocates believe this age group needs sexual protection may be a shocking wake up call with some parents new to the teenage years.
Wouldn’t it be best to broach the subject clearly without hedging from the topic with all its pros and cons, from the security of the home? Self Help books are readily available as well as meeting with therapists in your area if sex is not easy to discuss from your stand point. Seeking advice on how to approach this topic may be uncomfortable for some but, in the long run, most beneficial for this generations health, morality and safety. Refering to the old adage, ‘Abstinence is the safest sex’ one must concede abstinence is not sex, and so it follows suit to say the risks of unsafe sex cannot be present. Open communication defines all healthy relationships, stay open to your children regardless of what the topic is, education is key in every aspect of our lives, on every level of development be it scholarly or socially.