If you’re single and relatively attractive with a nice personality and clever writing skills; you will be vehemently sought after and highly desired in the online dating arena. Wait a minute, if you’re so great; how come you’re still single? I’ll tell you why. The traditional ways in which singles meet are dwindling and becoming less and less desirable for reasons that are beyond our control. Although still a means, trying to meet a future mate in any one of the following scenarios may produce less than desirable results;
Work: Fishing off the company pier is generally frowned upon in the wake of sexual harassment lawsuits and anti-fraternizing policies between employees in the work place. Other drawbacks are, being the subject of petty office gossip and the risk of appearing unprofessional in your dealings with colleagues. Not to mention the awkwardness in facing your ex-lover five days a week after the fling is flung!
Back to School for the MBA: Kudos! Continuing your education after years of being far removed from the practices associated with the matriculation process e.g. studying etc, may require additional focus and effort. If coupled with working full time and having a somewhat dynamic work load, dating someone in the same busy boat, may create scheduling challenges. You’re better off with someone who does not have as many “balls in the air.” A partner with a lighter schedule may be more flexible to work around your busy schedule. Besides an online MBA program may be an alternate solution offering even more flexibility. Unless of course, you simply prefer the class room experience? Um, aren’t you a little bit too old to play beer pong and quarters?!
Matchmaking by friends and family: Just say no! Unless your friends or family really knows what turns you on? They are just trying to set you up using a “cookie cutter” notion of what they think you will like. Albeit their intentions are good, ones’ own personal romantic life is better left in ones’ own hands. You don’t want to end up kicking yourself for allowing someone else to foist you into an awkward blind date. Whereas you are so grossly mismatched that you are wondering if your companion is even from the same planet! If you value your time as I do, you will want to make more suitable choices on how you spend your evenings.
Bars/Night Clubs: I’ll admit it’s a classic! But, not at all conducive to holding meaningful conversations and getting to know a person on a real level. Bars and the over indulgence of alcohol go hand in hand. Not the best state of mind for making “sober” decisions. Although fun and certainly entertaining, encounters that occur in this venue are best taken as a night’s fun experience and not necessarily offering a future endeavor.
Fitness Centers: I don’t know about you, but I don’t think sweat drenched hair is a good look! When a woman goes to the gym in full make-up and sexy spandex and is more interested in preening than working out; men tend to notice her, but not in a good way. She looks obvious, on the prowl and maybe even a tad bit desperate. So ladies, what’s your choice? Desperation or perspiration! When you go to the gym, go there to take care of your body. If a chance meeting occurs, terrific. Besides any guy who approaches you when you’re all sweaty, out of breath and without make-up, probably has a genuine interest.
On the flip side, the initial encounter via Online, a meeting or a date, has less pitfalls. The coffee house meeting. Could anything be more trite and boring! It’s a good thing that coffee is available to stave off the urge to nap! In case you haven’t guessed by now, I am not a proponent of coffee houses as an ideal location for meeting singles and it’s certainly not a date. The coffee house meeting is probably the most popular meeting suggestion, by men, for a first meeting. Why? It’s the cheapest way for a man to meet as many women as possible without spending money. Basically, it’s a cheap non-date.
Guys, I’m not saying break the bank, but if you are playing a numbers game and indiscriminately soliciting a large number of women without any personal consideration for the gals as individuals? You are wasting the gal’s time. I suggest you focus on a smaller number of women and get to know them a little better before meeting. If there is any sincere interest or a spark, then you can make a proper date plan. I know it’s the company more so than the location. But get real, who wants to drive 15-20 miles, one way for a cup coffee? Ladies, let’s be fair too! Suffice to say we can date 10 men and it won’t cost us one red cent. Men bare the brunt of the cost related to dating, in general. Try to find a happy medium and play nice! On that note; in my next segment we will discuss ”the fine art of juggling dates.” Stay tuned…