Jennifer Warnick of Madison Area NVC is offering a 6 week course entitled Parenting from Your Heart on Madison’s east side from Tuesday, February 8 until Tuesday, March 15. Jennifer agreed to an interview to share her passion for families.
What is Parenting from Your Heart?
Parenting from Your Heart is based on NonViolent Communication, www.cnvc.org. The focus on parenting was further developed by Inbal Kashtan, cofounder of Bay Area NVC, www.baynvc.org, and coauthor of Peaceful Families, Peaceful World. The philosophy of parenting from your heart is parents and children are valued equally. Parents have so little support in our culture. Parents are really worn out with all of the responsibility our culture puts on them—it is hard to be on your own. The process of parenting from your heart is learning how to identify observations, feelings and needs. This course offers the tools, real time practices and experiences that a self-help book cannot.
Won’t this type of parenting spoil a child?
This type of parenting offers a connection with your child. The parent is in “a power with” instead of a “power over” situation. It is parenting without punishments and rewards. This class is not about permissiveness, it is about connection. The class offers tools for parenting with authentic limits.
Can you give me an example?
At bedtime, your child screams, “no” when you ask him to brush his teeth. In the course we will explore the “yes” behind the no. With younger children, you might ask him after guessing that his need is to have fun, “Play 5 minutes more than brush teeth”. You are teaching your young child how to meet his needs while at the same time helping him see your concern over his wellbeing. With older children, we will learn how to further that connection as they gain the tools to express themselves. We will learn that as a parent we may say no to a child’s strategy to meet their need while not losing the connection to them. The parent will be taught that saying no to a strategy does not mean they are saying no to the child.
Do both parents have to attend?
One parent often attends the course for a variety of reasons. Sometimes both parents attend the initial session and they tag team for the other sessions. Grandparents also have come to the class. A parent will end the sessions knowing how to give themselves empathy and will be able to empathize with others. This class is a personal transformation that will affect parenting and other relationships. Rumi wrote, “Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and right doing, there is a field. I’ll meet you there”.
What is one reason parents should not miss this class?
This course will allow you to find more energy, peace, and space to be with your family than you thought possible. It will allow you to prioritize your life in ways you didn’t think you had time for. It will give you the practical tools to make it possible.
To sign up for this course please contact Jennifer Warnick at 608-233-9150 or Jennifer@madisonareanvc.org . The cost for all sessions is $175 ($145 per person when partners register together). However, no one is turned away if payment is an obstacle; contact Jennifer for more details. For further information about NVC in Madison, visit www.madisonareanvc.org.