Many couples now days are living together without any intentions of ever getting married; however, they are still having children and living as if they were married. There are several reasons why the stigma of “living in sin” is starting to fade.
For most, it is because they come from a broken home themselves or have already been through a divorce and do not want to go that route again. Many who have lived through their parents getting divorced do not want to go through that heartache themselves. Additionally, those that have been through a divorce do not want to go through that again. Many say that getting out of a marriage is a lot harder than getting into one; therefore, it is just easier to live with your partner.
Addionally, there is the financial aspect of marriage. According to Napa Valley Register, here is a classic example of why people cannot afford to get married.
For Lisa Crist, 31, and Rob Runyon, 34, of Napa, marriage is simply unaffordable. Crist is an insulin-dependent diabetic with thyroid disease, and she would lose her Medi-Cal health insurance if she married Runyon. Their combined income wouldn’t be low enough to qualify.
“It was only when she got pregnant that we realized we couldn’t afford (marriage),” Runyon said.
On a recent morning, their two toddlers, Presley and Pieper Runyon, eat clementines from small bowls in their Napa home, and Runyon and Crist calculate the monthly costs of Crist’s health bills without Medi-Cal. They total more than $800.
“We want the kids to grow up saying we’re married,” Runyon said. “Some people say it’s a choice, but we’ve looked into it and we can’t afford it.”
It’s apparent that income affects the choice to marry. The decline in U.S. marriage has occurred along class lines. In 2008, 64 percent of college graduates were married, whereas 48 percent of those with only a high school diploma were wed, according to the Pew Center survey.
Low-income Napa mothers have trouble getting fathers to agree to marriage and paying for the ceremony, said case managers in the Healthy Moms and Babies department of Clinic Ole in Napa.
But what does this say about commitment? The divorce rate is already high and now people are not wanting to commit to marriage anymore, whether it is out of fear of divorce or because of financial reasons. Will it come to a day when all old-fashioned morals are out the window and our children will not any longer know what marriage is or was? Will it just be a tale that they hear of on Grandma and Grandpa’s lap? We need to bring morals and commitment back to society.
After all is not marriage about sticking together through sickness and health, good times and bad?