By the time you’re in your 30s, there are bound to be one or two things from your past that you’re not completely proud of. Whether it’s a youthful indiscretion, like being kicked out of college for having marijuana in your dorm room, or if it’s a potential deal breaker, like having cheated on every significant other you’ve ever had, there are some things you’re not going to necessarily blurt out on date No. 1.
However, there’s a fine line between withholding the truth and simply waiting for the right moment to share personal secrets with someone with whom trust has yet to be established.
So, the question becomes: when is the right time to reveal your secrets?
There are always other factors that weigh into this decision: Has this person shared any personal secrets with you? Are you able to convey what you learned from the experience and how you’ve grown? Most importantly, has your potential significant other asked a direct question on this matter that would require you to be less than honest if you kept it a secret?
It sounds cliché, but by 30, you’ve probably learned that honesty is the best policy, and while you do want to be mindful when sharing personal secrets, you know that – in order to have a true friendship – it’s best you come clean sooner rather than later.
So, when’s the right time?
That’s a question only the two people involved can answer after assessing all the variables; however, it’s probably best to get everything out in the open before the wedding.