No it’s not in the dictionary (possibly soon to be), yes it gets underlined with the red squiggle in Microsoft Word, but sexting is a real thing! A very fun real thing, if done properly. If you haven’t been introduced to this new phenomenon you are oddly missing out, so let me give you a brief history… Through the ages people have found ways to convey their sexual attraction through the written and spoken word. First our great great grandparents began with seductive writing via snail mail, sometimes overseas. Then came the telephone and the still popular phone sex, after heavy breathing and heavy petting came the computer, leading a slippery slope to Cyber Sex via instant messaging and chat rooms (the creepiest of them all) and then finally the cell phone and the Sext Message!
v: the act of text messaging someone in the hopes of having a sexual encounter with them later; initially casual, transitioning into highly suggestive and even sexually explicitIn a sentence: “He keeps sexting me saying how hard he is and how much he wants to tap my ass”.
So if you are just starting out I wouldn’t test it out on a friend or someone you hardly know, wait until you have someone worth sexting. You want your sexting to lead to something, no awkwardness next time you see your friend. Also sexting with someone you hardly know can be intimidating, you don’t know what they like and you don’t want to offend them by telling them you want your toes sucked. Start simple, you want slow seduction that builds up to something great. Not a rushed quickie, nobody likes a sext quickie. You want to remain sexy and not slutty or perverted (guys). You’re going to have to choose something good to start off with to peak the interest of your partner, you don’t want to have a one sided text where your significant other didn’t even know you where getting turned on/trying to turn them on. The ultimate result from a sext should be both parties rushing home to GET.IT.ON. (or ultimately build up for when you finally get to have each other).
Some simple things to remember: 1.) If you wouldn’t use the P, D or C word (if I have to explain these you shouldn’t be sexting) in real life don’t say it over sext. 2.) Do not send naked pictures until you are sure this person won’t send/share them. 3.) Don’t be too graphic and vulgar, something’s just don’t need to be said 4.) Mean what you say, don’t just sext cause you are bored at the DMV…if you say you are turned on, don’t actually be taking an eye exam.
Practice Safe Sext. Use Spellcheck.