Today’s article is inspired by my favorite radio show hosts, Karson and Kennedy of Mix 104.1. Kennedy was discussing her living situation with her boyfriend. She has a home in Boston, but spends about 5 nights a week at her boyfriend’s home and feels like she lives out of bags. She’s always packing and re-packing. I believe this is a common situation for couples on their way to living together.
It becomes quite a hassle to continually pack and re-pack your overnight bag if you find you’re spending more and more time at your significant other’s home rather than your own. It’s not always possible to have two of everything, so there may always be a few items you’ll need to have with you at all times. In addition to your regular daily items, like a hairdryer, you may also need to pack tomorrow’s lunch or gym clothes. In a city, this can add to up to quite a lot of extra baggage. Having a car makes it a little easier, but there’s still the packing and unpacking and repacking.
Here are some tips on essential items to leave behind or invest in a second.
1. Talk about it before you start leaving little pieces of yourself. Don’t just unload your girly items without having a conversation. That would likely result in a giant step backwards, not forwards.
2. Buy a new hairdryer. If you dry your hair every day, buy a second one so you can have one at your place and one at his. This small investment will lighten your load.
3. Take up space in his bathroom. Want your own shampoo/conditioner/body wash? Of course you do. You still want to smell like yourself, no matter where you shower. Keep your self-cleaning supplies stocked in each of your bathrooms.
4. Plan your gym days. If you’re headed to the gym, keep clothes in a locker. Buy travel size products to keep at the gym. Reduce the amount you need to carry between your home, his home, and the gym as much as possible.
5. Leave pajamas. This one is easy. You don’t need new pajamas every night so leave behind some comfy clothes.
Because of this dating nomad situation, location can be a great excuse to end it with someone who isn’t worth the schlep, or an excuse to speed it up with someone who is. “Mind if I keep a toothbrush here?” is a simple question to gauge his level of commitment in the early stages of a relationship. If he wants your toothbrush sitting next to his, that’s a good sign. If he doesn’t, you probably don’t want it there either.
Are you now or have you ever been a dating nomad? How do you cope?