Disclaimer: The author of this piece does not claim to be a professional. The advice that is given is all from pure life experiences and with that being said….read at your own risk.
You may be thinking that this is just another self-help, ego-boosting article that is designed to help you feel better about being solo dolo. Well….I declared that you are exactly correct! You see in this world of couple-dom, its hard to maintain your sanity when it seems like everyone is riding off into the sunset in wedded bliss. Reality check, everything that glitters isn’t gold and until you receive a nice sparkly gold band on that finger, we are in the same boat boo! So buckle your seat belts and get REAL comfortable on this journey of being single, dating, (celibate? maybe) and loving it. The key to success is accepting yourself for everything that you are are, everything you are not, and everything that you strive to be.
Where it all begins and ends with is you, so if you don’t know then now you know. Now let’s get loose! That is meant in the figurative sense, and not in the physical sense unless your feeling froggy. So with that being said, the Knoxville dating scene is not much different from any other city. If you are newly ball and chain free, then there are some things that you must know and that are essential to your dating life! As cliche as it sounds you must love yourself before anybody else can love you..
THINGS THAT YOU MUST HAVE TO BE SUCCESSFUL
- GET A THEME SONG- Yes! that’s right, a theme song like in the movies. Ex: Do you sashay a certain way, when there is that one song that gets you pumped and ready to go? Yep, you get it, so you need a theme song that’s makes you feel good. That way if you come back from a crummy date, you have that song that picks you right back up and makes you fiesty again. (Let the fist pumping commence)
Suggestions: “Brick House” by the Commodores, “Feel Like A Woman” by Shania Twain, “You Don’t Have To Call” by Usher, “Can’t Tell Me Nothing” By Kanye West, and an all time favorite “Single Ladies” by Beyonce.
- ACQUIRE A “KILL EM DEAD” OUTFIT- This is the outfit of ALL outfits, and you know when you step out in this one your killin’ everybody. Its the outfit that makes you feel like you belong on the red carpet, and you could stop traffic. It’s the outfit that when your lookin the mirror you say “I would bite myself, I look soo good WHEW!”. You know that you’ve modeled this ‘fit in the mirror, danced in it to make sure it moves right and all that. You will absolutely need to spend a little more money on it and accessorize to the max. Fellas make sure its crisp and starched(wrinkles ain’t hott), and ladies keep it sophisticated and classy. (Sidenote: Being in denial with those 3 size too small jeans is not the business, and we also don’t wanna see all the goodness that God gave you!).
- RAISE YOU STANDARDS- This simply means know what you want and don’t settle for anything less than that. Know your limits, even write a list of deal breakers, and go from there. This is your life, and if you were in an unhappy relationship before, now is the time to redeem yourself. Its like picking out a nice pair of shoes, or a tailored suit. If it was too tight, uncomfortable, made your feet hurt and doesn’t match anything, then why in the hell would you purchase it. By no means should you be a “nickel out there looking for a dime”. What that means is for example; you can’t have financial issues, maybe a little extra weight, but yet you will only date a millionaire athlete, or a supermodel. That is not reality, and those of you know who I’m talking about…probably talking to “YOU”!
- LOVE YOURSELF- Bottom line is that dating in 2011 is HARD, and you must be secure in yourself so that you don’t lose sight of who you are. Everyone has something totally freakin’ awesome about themselves that is totally unique from the next person. Do not ever compare yourself to anyone else because God made you special, and there is somebody out there that was created just for you. Find some things about yourself that you really like, and enhance that. Make sure that you are ready to go out there and get em tiger! Closed mouths don’t get fed, and you are not going to find a mate in the bottom of that Ben & Jerry’s ice cream or Patron Tequila.
In conclusion, and this should go without saying is that life is short. Why wake up in regret? Use this time to live your best life possible because life is about living. Make some mistakes, go outside of your comfort zone, and date someone that you wouldn’t normally date. You never know that he/she could be a diamond in the rough, and your missing out on someone amazing. Until next time….Happy Trails Folks!
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