Going on a first date? It can be as stressful as a job interview, but never fear, read these tips to make your date feel like cupid must have shot them down with an arrow.
1. Look your very best
If you have been looking forward to going on a date with someone you really like bring out the big guns!
Put your game face on:
Wear just enough makeup to look like you don’t have on a lot of makeup…
Wear heels, unless, you know you are going somewhere where they would look ridiculous
Wear Color: Color brings energy, and makes you stand out more
If you are already nervous don’t try anything new, go with what you know you look good in: Do you have a sexy lbd that always does the job? Wear it!
Women loves a well dressed man: Don’t just show up in a crummy tee-shirt, dress to impress!
Look well groomed with just a bit of scruff. Women like a man who is naturally attractive, not one who tries too hard.
Don’t be afraid to wear cologne, it gives her something to remember you by.
2. Listen more than you talk
The best way to get to know someone is to actually listen to what they have to say. Also listening will let you know if you actually like the person.
Are you afraid he is not talking enough? Ask him a question, and stay quiet…listen to him… then right around the time you would usually interject, wait an extra 5 seconds, more likely than not, he will continue to talk and open up more.
If you want to know how a woman really feels listen to her. She probably told you without having a question to answer.
If you want her to stop talking, and the moment is just right, kiss her!
3. Ask questions?
People are always interested in talking more about themselves. If you ask them the right questions, they are flattered and you don’t have to worry about the conversation flowing. Just make sure they are asking you questions as well, this lets you know if they are more interested in themselves than they are you.
4. Touch them:
A gentle touch can help form a connection.
Girls: Find a way to gently nudge his shoulder when you laugh at his joke.
Guys: A slight touch on the lower back as you guide her to her seat makes a woman feel connected to you
5. Talk lower than normal:
Don’t talk in a whisper, but speak lower than you normally would, it will draw the other person into you, because… well, they need to lean in a tad bit to hear you.
6. Make eye contact for several seconds
Don’t stare into their eyes long enough to creep them out, but a few extra seconds here and there will also form a connection
7. Compliment them, but only if you mean it.
Too many compliments will make a person feel uncomfortable, keep it to a minimum, but do it at least 3 times throughout the date. Think of maybe a first, middle and last, which increase throughout the night. Don’t get inappropriate.
8. Use their body language against them
An interesting way to sway a person onto your side is by slightly mimicking their body language, if they lean in, you lean in. If they cross their arms slowly … cross your arms…in an unobvious way.
You can also tell if the other person is into you or not by their body language.
Are they leaning in towards you? If they are closer, they want to literally be closer to you; on the other hand if they are far away …
Are their feet facing yours? Great sign!
Have they found a reason to lightly touch you? Even better!
9. Have fun
It’s a date not brain surgery. Just do your best to enjoy the other person. Keep the conversation light and exciting. Don’t complain, or speak negatively, it makes you seem like a downer.
10. End the date on an honest note:
If you didn’t have a good time, don’t promise to see them again or to call, just thank them for the date. This way a person isn’t expecting to hear from you, and you don’t feel guilty. If you genuinely had a good time they most likely did as well so don’t be afraid to say so.
How you go from there is up to you. Good Luck!
Ps. Practice makes perfect, don’t get bummed out if your date went awry, keep at it and you will become a natural!