No matter how busy families can get, the New Year doesn’t pass by without parents thinking about what they’d like to change if they had time, money, motivation, etc. It doesn’t have to be January 1st for a family to begin a new journey.
Here is a list of top ten resolutions for today’s blended families, some ideas for having fun in the new year, and a short list of goal-setting do’s and don’ts for success!
Top ten New Year’s resolutions for families
- Spend more time together
- Lose weight
- Pay off or pay down debt
- Get a (better) job
- Get better grades
- Learn something new
- Get into college or take a class
- Get organized
- Take a vacation
Goal-setting do’s and don’ts
Flexibility is key. While the idea that taking twenty-one days to make (or break) a habit is a great focal point for resolutions, it’s not set in stone, and everyone is different. Keeping on track in the early days after making a resolution is important when starting a new habit, but getting back on track is perhaps even more vital.
Also, if the thought of adding something like volunteering at a child’s school on a weekly basis to the family schedule makes a parent break out in hives, she can consider volunteering to take over the car pool for a month or to send a healthy snack with her child to share once a week for the library’s story hour, instead.
For a person who’s never been organized a day in her life, it’s going to be difficult to stick to a resolution to “Keep the house clean” (especially when the forces of nature, sometimes referred to as “family”, get in the mix). It’s more realistic in that case to choose a smaller, more realistic goal, like keeping the desk or counter in the kitchen or main living space cleared off, or clearing it off weekly.
Take baby steps
For anyone who’s seen a baby takes his first steps, it’s a great motivator to remember the wonder and joy on that baby’s face. The best thing about using baby steps in goal-setting is to recognize that though babies inevitably fall, over and over again, they still keep on trying until they are eventually walking and then running. If the idea of taking a family vacation is appealing, but unrealistic due to parenting time schedules or the economy, taking one weekend afternoon off a month to do something special as a family might be a good option, instead.
A positive attitude works wonders, tipping the scales against seemingly insurmountable odds. Amazingly, people tend to make New Year’s resolutions that they don’t expect to be able to keep. Being flexible and realistic, and expecting success, shortens the distance between wishful thinking and a new, happier reality.
For more info:
Hampton Roads’ library programs and story times:
Chesapeake Public Libraries Story Time Calendar
Hampton Public Library Children’s Programs
Newport News Public Library Story Time
Norfolk Public Library Story Time
Portsmouth Public Library Children’s Programs
Virginia Beach Public Libraries Locations and Contact Info (click on “Programs” at selected libraries)