Valentine’s Day, a yearly dilemma for many in the dating world, somewhat awkward for people who are only casually dating, in single or multiple term, and quite often a sensitive day for ones who have yet to meet someone special. With insatiable curiosty, a series of telephone interviews have been made to various bachelors and bachelorettes in the dating world; interesting to learn what single guys and gals in Miami think about Valentine’s Day.
America has chosen this one day on Feb 14th for all lovers to demonstrate sentiments for each other; in collective efforts may an abundant amount of heart shaped chocolates be consumed, an astronomical amount of long stemmed roses be cut and trimmed, and of course, may greeting cards bearing special messages of love be shared among thousands if not millions across the land. Beautiful day in the committed world of love, apparently lacks consideration for those who are seeking, contemplating, or unsure of where and how.
Tracy spent Valentine’s Day with someone last year who is no longer in her life today; she is sentimental and has yet to meet someone special. Every time she walks past the Valentine’s section in Publix, she would rush by to avoid the sight of heart shaped boxes in all sizes.
Casual dater Zev is cautious not to be misunderstood, has yet to decide if he should ‘be in town’ on Feb 14th. Sandy has been seeing Keith for a while and is anticipating an invitation as a ‘sign’. Charlie would like to ask Stephanie for a date on this day, however hesitant, afraid to be rejected. Teresa has multiple invitations and does not know what to do; she can only accept one invitation and all others will likely be upset. Troy plans to devote the entire evening, sharing two hours with each special friend, so everyone will get some attention. Benita is overwhelmingly emotional. All her friends are married and she is the last one standing solo. Eugene is truly happy single and will be skipping Valentine’s Day this year.
It is interesting to learn that on this one given day, meant to be filled with chocolates and sweet passionate fun, can actually be a day of predicament for many in the dating world.
For individuals who would like to celebrate singlehood and enjoy an exciting and fun weekend around Feb 14th, there are numerous singles parties throughout Miami, fun and stressless ways to meet new friends and perhaps, that someone special.
Those who are not dating yet but have someone special in mind, contemplating to ask or not to ask, to do or not to do, 100 daffodils after, the answer is still a guess. Don’t toss a coin now, go with the flow and listen to the heart. So what if the answer is ‘no’ ? at least the truth will be revealed; if it is a ‘yes’, then predicament is solved.
For those who are beginning to date and contemplating whether or not to ask for a Valentine’s date, consider this rule of thumb: Women are emotional creatures. If a woman is asked for a date on Valentine’s date, there will be a certain amount of assumption on the man’s level of interest.
Unless truly interested in persuring a deeper level of connection, a ‘ romantic date’ on Valentine’s Day may cause confusion and may not be the best idea. However said, there are other ways to approach this day with tact in light, easy and fun ways; to show someone they are special and would like to get to know them more, getting together for some quality time on the day ‘before’ Valentine’s Day might work best.
On a separate note, wishing all lovers who are pursuing a more intense level of commitment a sweet day of beautiful moments. Pour the hearts out and make Feb 14th 2011 an amazing and unforgettable experience. Do something original, if it can be imagined, it can be done.
** Based on a series of telephone interviews where names have been substituted for privacy. Opinion is not to be conceived as clinical advice.