No one ever said relationships are easy. Dating is the easy part. It’s when you take that next step or should I say hurdle to form what many couples want as a relationship. Why would that be hard if everything is good in the dating process? Maybe it’s because of the “WALL” that each of us has in front. I’m talking about the “Wall of Life.” What does that entail? It’s the fears and insecurities we have with ourselves. It’s the flaws and shame of what we think or what people think of us. This wall creates the boundaries between what we know and what we want people to know. So at the end of the day, who is really ready to climb that person’s wall to find out what that person is really about?
Most people will do different things to go around that wall without ever getting to know everything about that person thus leading them to a failed or doomed relationship. They will try to chizzle and break or tear it down. Many people think that is the answer. That only says you are not willing to help that person take on the challenges they have in their lives and take the easy way out. Many people just chose not to see it or try to walk around it and never realize it’s there until its too late as what they refuse to accept becomes the downfall. The fact of the matter is, climbing that wall means wanting to be with that person and wanting to take on those challenges with them.
It takes work to climb that wall but in the end doesn’t work help us appreciate something more? Whether we buy a house, a new car, or a valuable item, do we not appreciate it more because we worked hard for them. The same goes for relationships. If you’re willing to do the work in climbing that wall to overcome each obstacle block then you will appreciate it more when you get to the other side. Two people who are willing to climb each other’s wall says that they are ready to take that step to know that person and help overcome obstacles together.
Too many people are so consumed with being with one person when they never look clearly to see if they’re with the right person. The wall that we have built in front of us is every aspect of our lives that is our past, our present and even our future. Many people climb mountains or hills or even bulidings. Well they all end at some place. But the Wall of Life continues on and if someone is willing to climb that for you as you are for them then it shows that you want to be with them regardless of their flaws and insecurities. So at the end of the day to you who reads this article if someone is willing to climb your wall, are you willing to climb theirs?