Valentine’s Day is the preserve of lovers, significant others, husbands, and wives. It’s a day to pamper those who mean most to us; to cast a ray of sunshine into a dreary day, week, or month; and perhaps to display affection for our loved ones through self-sacrifice and unselfishness.
An informal survey taken in Roswell, however, revealed that this is easier said than done.
The question was simple: “What do you want most for Valentine’s Day?”
However simple the question, the answers were complex and varied, if for no other reason than men and want very different things. How can a man give a woman what she desires — and vice versa — on the same day, if their desires are as different as night and day; beer and champagne; the moon and the sun?
They can’t, right? The male and female psyches are polar opposites.
To prove the point, are a few responses to the survey:
“Not to be ignored”
“For him to pay more attention to me”
“Surprise me by doing some of the chores”
“I want the whole day to be about me”
“His undivided attention”
“A picnic on the beach”
“Spending the whole day together”
“To have a nice dinner at home rather than go out”
“To play golf all day”
“Not to spend all the money I usually spend”
“Lots of sex”
“A day with my buddies without getting bitched at”
“To drink all day long”
“To lay on the couch all day without interruption”
“To be left alone”
Those surveyed ranged from 22 to 43 years old. Although space requirements preclude listing all the responses, these were fairly representative; and strongly suggest fundamental differences between the ways in which men and women think.
One male respondent said, “To be with my girl all day long.” And one female said, “I don’t celebrate Valentine’s Day.” But overall, the plain and simple truth is that Valentine’s Day can be celebrated for one sex only. Unless, of course, one lives in La-La Land; where the roads are paved with candy hearts, every dream is filled with sunshine and happiness, and both sexes want exactly the same things.
For those of us who are poor planners, or are habitually undemonstrative, Valentine’s Day serves as a reminder to live a little better and love a little more. A reciprocal Valentine’s Day, however, would be one that he could shop with her; she could drink a few with him; he could cook dinner or do a chore; she could allow him some time for himself; and both could snuggle together to watch a movie at the end of the day. Most likely, though, Feb. 14th will leave “half” of a relationship out in the cold: The “half” that are best at practicing self-sacrifice and unselfishness.