In every relationship there’s a period where we all forget to do the little things we did for our mates at the beginning of the relationship. How many times do you hear your friends, co-workers, and even yourself complaining about what’s not being done anymore? But here the real questions; what are you not doing? Its human nature to concentrate only on what’s not being done for you, what about what your not doing. More often than not if your feel as if you’re being taken for granted or bored they may also. There can be many reasons for these slips as well so don’t feel that this is just happening to you. Causes can be anything from stress, over working, depresstion, or good old fashion sloth.
I remember a conversation with a co-worker about how there mate use to do this and that but now its all routine. Come home, watch television and go to bed. No sparks in the bedroom either. What happen was they were working and going to school. They didn’t find the time just for each other. Come on people take the initiative and jumpstart the sparks don’t just wait for it to happen on its own. Let your partner know that you still want them emotionally andphysically. A closed mouth won’t get fed. You have to let them know something is missing and you want is back and are willing to give it to them as well. Just the comment of “you’re so cute” out of the blue can go a long way. Once it gets started it like a snowball downhill people. Walk up to them and just tickle them for no reason, and when they ask what that was about say “I just wanted to hear you laugh. I like it when you laugh”. Male or female you’ll usually get a grin. Don’t forget to flirt with your mate; they liked it before they’ll love it now.
Have open and honest conversations with your significant other to help avoid these types of issues before they have a chance to begin and develop. It’s not always easy to recognizes when it’s about to begin or has begun so just jump right in and ask questions. Are you ok? Is the perfect opener for some? Although it does not always work on the mates who tend to keep unrest or discontentment to themselves. If you’ve been in the relationship for a number of years you’ll have hopefully found out how get to the root of issues on there perspective. If it’s a new relationship it’s always good to start this type of openness from the beginning.
Nowlets be honest people its takes two to dance and if one of you steps out of beat it throws off the whole balance.