Have you ever been called crazy? I’m willing to bet your significant other diagnosed you with this personality defect during the escalation of an argument or conflict, in which he was losing. That’s right ladies, more and more men have earned their Ph.D and therapist licenses and have diagnosed us as being ” Crazy “! Being called crazy is demeaning, invalidating and do not be fooled, it is emotional abuse. Be cautious of the timing in which you are called ” Crazy “. Some men use this as a defense mechanism to shift the blame onto you and not take responsibility for their behavior or actions when they feel backed against a wall and you’re calling them out on their behavior. What better way to play the victim than to accuse you of being irrational and an emotional wreck? You’re trying to make your point, get your thoughts out in the open and out of the blue you’re hit with the now infamous line, ” You’re crazy “! Hearing this enough, some women even start to question their own sanity, which is what the manipulative individual wants. He wants control and wants you to feel inferior and change your behavior to please him. His goal is to get you to submit to him, change your behavior to accommodate his standards.
Its said that men think logically while women rely on their emotions and here lies the missed/mixed messages between men and women during passionate debates. ” Crazy “ in man-speak translates to ” You’re not making sense to me “. Some men throw ” Crazy “ in the mix because they’re confused while others knowingly use it as a manipulative tactic. Take this real life quote ” If you don’t know that I don’t like you cause you’re crazy, then you are crazy. ” This is what my past significant other blurted out during our last and final argument. Have another read if you must. My interpretation of the quote goes like this: If I am not aware that I am in fact crazy and him not liking me is due to the fact that I am crazy, then I must be crazy if I didn’t know this. You can imagine the blank expression that fixed itself onto my face and rendered me speechless for a few minutes as I processed that statement. If that’s not a psychological kicker, I don’t know what is! Behind every woman that’s been labeled ” Crazy “, ” Psycho “ and ” Insane “, lies a ” Crazy Making “ man and yes, ” Crazy Making “ is a legitimate term and often described in most abusive relationships. Stay strong.